Dear Daddy, I will be called a whore..

Norwegian charity CARE http://www.care.no put together this moving video. Highlighting everyone's responsibility to stand up and say no to domestic and sexual violence.  

It is the small changes in our everyday life that can play a part in putting an end to sexual and domestic violence. It is not the grand gestures, protests, and rallies that have the biggest effect. It’s how we teach our sons and daughter to respect each other. It's how we allow our mates to interact with the each other and the opposite sex. It's how we say no, and stand up to unacceptable behaviors that will make the biggest difference. What changes will you make? 

Misogyny is the hatred or dislike of women or girls. Misogyny can be manifested in numerous ways, including sexual discrimination, belittling of women, violence against women, and sexual objectification of women
— https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Misogyny

See the powerful script below:

          Dear Daddy, I just wanted to thank you for looking after me so well, even though I'm not yet born. I know you already try harder than Superman. You won’t even let mommy eat sushi, but I need to ask you a favor.

         Warning it’s about boys, because you see, I will be born a girl which means that by the time I'm 14 the boys in my class will have called me a whore, a bitch, a cunt and many other things. It’s just for fun of course, something boys do. So you won’t worry and I understand that. Perhaps you did the same when you were young, trying to impress some of the other boys. I'm sure you didn't mean anything by it. Still some of the people won’t get the joke, and funnily enough it isn’t any of the girls. It’s some of the boys.

       So by the time I turned 16, a couple of the boys would have snuck their hands down my pants while I'm so drunk I can't even stand straight. And although I say no, they just laugh. It’s funny right. If you saw me Daddy, you would be so ashamed. Because I'm wasted. No wonder I’m raped when I’m 21.

       21 and on my way home in a taxi driven by the son of a guy you went swimming with every Wednesday. The guy who always told insulting jokes, but they were of course only jokes, so you laughed. Had you known his son would end up raping me you would've told him to get a grip. But how could you know, he was just a boy telling weird jokes. And in any case it wasn't your business, you were just being nice. But his son, raised on these jokes becomes my business.

     Then finally I meet mister perfect and you're so happy for me Daddy because he really adores me, and he's smart with a great job and all through the winter he goes cross country skiing three times a week just like you. But one day he stops being Mister perfect and I don't know why. Wait, am I overreacting? One thing I do know, I'm not the victim type. I'm raised to be a strong and independent woman. But one night it's just all too much for him, with work and the in laws and the wedding coming up, so he calls me a whore. Just like you called a girl in middle school a whore once. Then another day, he hits me. I mean, I'm way out of line, I can really be a bitch sometimes but we're still the world's greatest couple and I'm so confused because I love him and I hate him and I’m not sure if I really did do something wrong and, and then one day he almost kills me. It all goes black.

        Even though I have a PHD, a fantastic job, I’m loved by my friends and family, I'm well brought up and nobody saw this coming. Dear Daddy, this is the favor I want to ask. One thing always leads to another. So please stop it before it gets the chance to begin. Don’t let my brother’s call girls whores because they’re not. And one day some little boy might think it's true.  Don't accept insulting jokes from weird guys by the pool or even friends. Because behind every joke there's always some truth. Dear Daddy, I know you will protect me from lions, tigers, guns, cars and even sushi without even thinking about the danger to your own life. But dear Daddy, I will be born a girl. Please do everything you can so that that won’t stay the greatest danger of all.